― Hillary Rodham Clinton
I love that quote – seriously, it brings a tear to my eye… as I laugh from just how perfectly it displays a woman’s inability to see reality through anything but her feelings.
If you are the typical guy you read it and said to yourself, “Yeah, those poor girls that are the victims of war. They lost their husbands, fathers, and sons to the vicious war. I see that and agree, they have been victimized.” And because you see the world through their very self-serving views, you are not going to see the truth. And you are never going to ignite their sexual souls.
And here is the truth; The victim(s) Hillary is talking about are still alive. Her husband, father and son probably died protecting her ass. She herself (as any self-centered and self-serving person would be) does not want to be on the battle field. As seen in real life.
Even more interesting, this quote displays the ability of women to turn anything that happens in life as them being the victim. It’s why I take all stories about some girl being abused, raped, attacked or putdown as the truth, but not the whole truth. It is why women claim husbands were abusive after they hit the man and he defends himself. It is why we are still dealing with the feminist movement. Pick any time in history that women felt oppressed and I can show you that men in the same race and social economic class had it worse. Anytime. It is also why women typically have no concept of accountability – if they display being the victim most men can be socially manipulated into doing the woman’s bidding.
The truth of the matter is women do not date men they see as equal.
She has to see you as having more value than her. If she doesn’t your relationship is doomed, or will never get off the ground.
I bring this up primarily as a way to help you men start seeing reality for what it was. We have an entire generation of men that are being raised with “politically correct but wrong thoughts”; “Men and Women are equals”, “A woman can do anything a man can do”, “Women are held down by men”, “Women make $0.77 to each dollar a man makes“, “1 in 4 college women are raped“, “we live in a rape culture“, “Men are more violent than women”, “Men leave women and children and should pay for it“, “Men cheat and lie more than women”, “men should never hit a woman”, “men should put women first”, “men should be chivalrous to women” and on and on we go.
Is it no wonder we became a nation of pussies? Everything in your mind that you have not purposefully programmed into your subconscious was programmed there by someone else. Most of our mental programming was placed in our subconscious mind by the time we are 8. Our programming dictates our Mental Road Maps, and our MRM’s dictate how we see reality. Our actions (energy, body language, communication, movement) are dictated by our subconscious – and that is the crap that has been programmed. How do you think all of that subconscious programming is going to make you feel as you try to interact with a woman?
People you were around when you were young had the most influence on your mental programming. They didn’t mean to program you bad, they were likely programmed bad as well. Most people wanted to program us as a success, and most people in our lives wanted to protect us so we got the “this sounds good” or “what I wish were true” programming. Face it 1% of the population makes 96% of the money, and 1 % of the guys get the top 20% of the most desired females. Most people don’t have a clue how to be a success.
Want to know why you speak with a Jersey, Texas or any other accent – one of your primary influencers spoke with this accent probably reinforced by where you live.
Want to know why you don’t have the success with women you desire – one of your primary influencers programmed you to be “nice” and put others, especially females, first.
My dad was at war the first 5 years of my life. I was a mommy’s boy. When he came back, I hated him. He took my mom away from me (as only natural when a husband returns). My dad was an Alpha in his own right – military, shot down 11 times (helicopters), wounded, bronze star, boxer, first member of the family to ever get a degree, financially successful, etc. And I was an early disappointment to him. He wasn’t around much, and I was a pussy boy. When I was young I didn’t live up to his standards. I wasn’t allowed to play contact sports (from my mom and grandmother) because I could get hurt. It wasn’t till my father forced me into boxing that I started to grow a backbone. And it still took years and a devastating divorce before I even started to learn all of this. He even said I would only be a ditch digger – and I was a millionaire by the time I was 30. But I had a lot of mental reprogramming to do first.
So how does this apply to you being the Alpha male?
Every single attraction factor that a man can display to a woman is that of him being above her. Not her equal, but above her. Whether it is true or not is based on a combination of what she values, and how he makes her feel. This is a subjective or perceived truth for sure.
You see, women and men see things differently. We all say we know that, but most people don’t truly understand that. Women feel truth. No matter what logic or reasoning you use to point out a difference in thinking, if she doesn’t feel it, it isn’t true. Call this subjective truth.
And men tend to be on the other spectrum. We tend to use a more objective truth. I see it, therefore it is true. I may feel like it should be different, but that doesn’t make it true.
And this is where we men let women down.
Men are more physical and stronger than women. Women tend to be just as violent as men, however they have less capacity for physical human damage (baring a gun or knife). This is why stopping abuse is primarily aimed at men. We have the capacity to do more damage because we are stronger therefore we are more dangerous. And why our laws and the enforcement of these laws are so against men being abusive and not women being abusive. If we, as men, lose control, we can easily kill them and there is little they can do to prevent it.
Women are more emotional and mentally stronger than men in a social environment. I don’t mean IQ. What I mean is women are stronger than men in social strategy, which is a form of mental chess or manipulation. Socially manipulating interactions is what women do. This is a form of evolutionary psychology that would allow the woman to “control” the male and protect her young. She couldn’t do it physically, so she had to learn the social strategies. It is why they love soap operas, reality TV and romance novels so much… it is usually about group dynamic social constructs which she has trained in since birth. It has been proven to be true regardless of environment, simply because of how her brain is wired.
Men were created to be powerful and capable of fierce violence to protect her and the young. We were also created to be less socially capable than the female so she could control us to a degree.
An Alpha male of the historical and evolutionary past was the dominate member of the group. He was the one that could be “enticed” enough to take her under his protective and sexual umbrella, “controlled” enough to keep her around, but not one who could be dominated by her – either with physical harm, sex or children. He was a man that could replace her with another of the group easily. This is part of why Preselection is so powerful on women. Even within the group of an Alpha they had to compete with other females in that group for the Alpha’s attention. Imagine a group of women that had to work together raising young and surviving also trying to get the same males attention.
This is also why the famous actor or rock star does so well, at least at first, with women. Preselection. Lot’s of the “group” already want him so women who might pass him up on the street start to want him too. It is how women compete. Of course, if they get him and he can’t pass her shit test, she starts looking for a higher value male. This is the very definition of Hypergamy.
We talk many times about “shit test” and how to deal with them. A shit test is simply a woman testing your ability to handle a challenge from the woman. It is a display of your mental and social fitness. And most of these “politically correct but wrong thoughts” are a massive collective shit test.
Every tactical, strategic and display of Alpha is a way to demonstrate high value without being controlled by female social constructs. Not as a man see’s high value, but as a woman see’s high value. Remember, what she feels is the value you bring to her life (a subjective truth) not the actual value you bring to her life (objective truth).
A very rich man, who is tall and good looking, well hung, articulate that can offer her a life of ease and exciting adventure should bring more value than the guy who makes enough to live, average to short height, average build with an average education. Every man reading this would say the first man had more value. Every women reading this would agree.
However, if that first man kissed her ass all the time, constantly put her first, bought her gifts with no reciprocation, contacted her first and most, let her (or by lack of trying made her) lead the interactions, constantly reassured her and tried to make her his equal while absolutely no other women showed interest in him (because he only wants her), she would be repelled. She shouldn’t be, but on a deep psychological level, she knows she is stronger than him mentally (social construct). This emotional energy is why nice guys get left behind when as men, we logically think he is the better catch than the other guy (the ones we call losers, bad boys, douche bags, assholes, etc.).
The other shorter, not as financially successful, average man that knows how to challenge her, increase attraction and create sexual tension with no fear of losing her is the one that ignites all of those powerful feelings in her brain and he is the one that makes her feel like he is the better sexual mate. If other women want him, so much the better. He is the one that doesn’t let her control him, change his views, dictate the interaction and he reacts to her emotional manipulation with either stoic humor or no emotions. He is her social mental master, and she is programmed to desire this guy.
This is why I wrote the Alpha Laws. They seem dark to some, but this is the truth of the sexual mating ritual of the Alpha and his mate. Each law helps reinforce a specific mindset that naturally displays Alpha.
Social Master – 2, 5, 9, 11, 22, 24
Dictate the Interaction -3, 6, 15, 18, 19, 21
Personal Power & Beliefs – 1, 4, 10, 14, 20, 23, 24
Preselection – 7, 12, 13, 17
All of these require confidence and work to increase attraction and build sexual tension. Every single one of them is a subconscious belief that dictates actions.
Any girl you want to be with can never be your equal. She is never going to settle or surrender to equal. Sure, she is of equal value as a human (likely more so since she can have offspring and you cannot – the only thing she can do better than you), but she is not your equal in her ability to dominate. You must be able to master your mind and emotions to display that you can master hers. She must always perceive you have more value than she has and you cannot be controlled. This is the recipe for very happy men and women.