Hey Buddy,

A lot going on in your email. So let’s look at a few topics…

“I was never really the alpha like you explain you are but I am still working on it. Sometimes I feel as if it doesn’t fit my personality. I’m more of the charming, witty, and funny type. “

Dan, the charming, witty and funny type is the PERFECT personality for meeting, seducing and having any woman you want.

Yes, I am more blunt and assholeish… but it is mixed with charm and wit.

I have several Alpha buddies. One is a very charming and witty guy, probably a lot like you. Good with business and above average looks. The other is a very soft spoken and reserved ex-Marine Core Sniper that also towers at 6’2 and 250 lbs. Still another is a 58 year old biker that is tall, skinny, potbelly and long salt-n-pepper black hair. This guy plays southern charm and talks to girls like they are refined women of culture – yes, the chicks selling beer from a tub at a biker bar is talked to like she is the Mistress of a large estate.

All of these guys are Alpha – they all pull extremely hot chicks and none of them spend a lot of money or chase girls. They also all have different personalities. Completely different personalities.

Learning Alpha isn’t about having a certain look, or money, or even a certain personality. It is about learning sexual triggers in women and knowing how to trigger sexual attraction.

So learn the attitudes and triggers… and then blend them with your personality.

Now on to your questions with the girls.

To me, it sounds like you didn’t move when you were supposed to.

Just reading what you wrote about Alyssa tells me you still put women on a pedestal in your mind.

With Jade it sounds like she was into you… but you let her attraction stall.

Look, if a girl is into you, and you don’t make a bold move by letting your intentions be known you are signaling 1 of 2 things.

You either:
1) Don’t like her, therefore to protect her ego she has to let her attraction die… or
2) By not making a move when you should have you are signaling you are a mentally weak man.

My guess, it’s the second one. I know, I was that guy for a lot of years so I know how we tip-toe around girls we like so we don’t do anything wrong. And by not just going after it, you are doing something wrong.

You have to internalize this to the point it is never in questions again…

Girls do not date their equal… they date up. The way you make a girl think of you as a man that has higher status than her is to trigger attraction and sexual tension in her. That’s what this whole site is about.

Also, the phone is for logistics… not building attraction. Guys that try to use email, the phone, snap chat or anything besides being in person are demonstrating they are NOT Alpha. A guy that is good with women doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for playing phone games. You can’t fuck over the phone.

I would tell you exactly what I would do with Jade. Wait till you are at a place to actually follow through with this… you must be prepared to follow it up without hesitation.

When you are ready you text her “I would like to bend you over and fuck you until you can’t walk.”

Wait till she texts back. No matter what she does text back, you tell her to meet you right then. This is not a “take them on a fancy date” ploy. This is a being BOLD and ALPHA demonstration.

Do not engage in any other conversation…. Do not answer her questions or if she “acts” mad, do not say sorry. Just give her a place and time to meet you. Ignore everything else.

When she comes to meet you, do not hesitate… lead her to the bed.

If she doesn’t meet… anytime you see her after that you just smirk and be charming. You called her out, she didn’t respond, you are above her and should FEEL like that around her going forward.

I think, if you are bold enough, your odds are pretty good with that one. Actually, that could work on both.

Here is one thing on that Alpha attitude… when you run into them, sure, be friendly, say hi, whatever. But you should never go out of your way to see them, say hi, or anything like that. Remember, you are the prize… you are above them and should act accordingly.

If it was me, when I saw them out (without going out of my way – I’m a busy guy on a mission, no time for chasing skirt) I would use Cocky & Funny to lightly sexually tease them to build attraction. When they start to flirt back, just give them a place and time to meet again. Do not waste your time making a girl feel good with sexual teasing and then not follow up on it.

You do this right, and both girls will start to text you and go out of their way to see you more.

When they start chasing you just follow my system and have fun.

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Of course, you do care what she looks like and who she is, which means you now have competition… that would be the other men that also care.

I still think this mentality is wrong… if you really want that perfect person in your life you have to have the right attitude. So the questions should be “how do I attract a hot and cool girlfriend that moves my life forward”?

Trust me – nothing is worse than having a hot and cool girlfriend that wants to tear you down, rather than move you forward.

Step 1 – Understand the Girl’s Mind

At a basic level you have to understand a woman dates UP. She is programmed to seek a man that is of higher PERCEIVED value than she thinks she has.

I say it is PERCEIVED value, since it is subject to “feelings” and point of view.

Ever see the hot girl with a douche bag and wonder… what the hell does she see in him? He is triggering attraction and making her feel sexual tension. That makes him seem like a higher perceived value man than the “nice guy”, the model guy or even the rich guy if they all kiss her butt.

Making a girl feel attraction is the key to her wanting to be with you.

You accomplish this by doing those things that High Status Men do.

Step 2 – The Mindset

This is a big step, and one where men fall short all the time.

The basic mindset is “I am the prize.”

Not her…. You. If you go into this interaction immediately assuming she is “better” than you or “out of your league” she will feel your energy, know you are a lower status man, and reject you. That is usually accomplished by putting you in the Friend Zone.

I know… most men don’t feel like they are the prize. This is where you need to remove the rose-colored glasses and start seeing reality for what it is.

Think of it this way…

Is she faster than you? Stronger? Bigger?

If there is a spider, a rat or a snake in the house – who is killing it?

Do you earn more than her?

If you go out on dates, who is protecting her, paying for the drinks and escorting her around?

Who has to listen to more drama? Are you going to whine to her, or is she going to whine to you?

And those are just the basics. You can drop me off in any city in the world and I will have more friends, better business and more money than her in a very short time.

You really ARE the prize.

Step 3: Meet Her

To me, this is one of the easiest steps. I meet girls all the time. At lunch, at dinner, in the grocery store, at the range, in the gym, getting my dry cleaning, at the gas station, etc.

Everywhere I go I see girls that I find visually appealing and might like to meet.

My openings depend on the situation, but are usually some Cocky & Funny observation about her, the situation or the environment. Anything besides a compliment and plain niceness.

Actually, with a lot of girls I use a sexual tension opener…

I see her and say, “Hey, how are you?”

Most of the time she says, “Good, how are you?”

Now this is the part that will really set you apart…

You say, “Me? I am FANTASTIC… at least that’s what the girls tell me.”

Cocky? Check.

Funny? Check.

Bold? Double Check.

From there chit chat, tease her, or just say… “I think I would like to talk to you again… what is your number?”

Or if you really want to judge how into you she is, tell her to take your number and send you a text. IF she does, you are likely in… if not; you would need to boost her attraction more.

Step 4: The Lovable Asshole

Girls dig men that challenge them, tease them, are bold, confident and that other women want.

Practice teasing women. Practice joking around. Stop saying sorry.

And talk to most women. Even if you aren’t interested, the more girls that like you, the more and hotter the girls that will like you in the very near future.

I use a lot of bold cocky & funny, but you can be direct and bold too.

If you are teasing and flirting with her and she starts crying and runs home while calling you an asshole, you are probably being too mean and not funny enough.

If she kind of punches you in the arm while saying, “You are an asshole” and in slightly exaggerated emotions she smirks, you are on your path to having any girl you want.

Girls HATE boring. They don’t want nice and easy. They want Drama. They want to wonder what you are up to, where you are, and who you are with.

Step 5: Be Busy (& In Demand)

It really is true… girls love a man that other girls want. Why do you think so many actors and musicians are desired? Even new musicians playing in front of local crowds have local girls that want them.

The girls want the social status of having what other girls want.

This is called preselection, and can work wonders in your favor when you have several girls that want you – you won’t believe how many more girls will all of a sudden want you too.

But what if you don’t really have anyone that wants you yet?

Get busy and look like you are in demand.

There are all kinds of guidelines for this, but let’s discuss the basics. You should be going to the gym, working on a couple of hobbies, and building your wealth (even if that means school).

I don’t respond to new girls (and most familiar girls) while I am at the gym.

I rarely even carry my phone when I am at the range, which is 1-2 days per week.

I don’t text, answer or call a new girl on Friday or Saturday. I might respond to her late Sunday.

Yes, I have met a new girl that has text me on a Saturday afternoon and wanted to get drinks. I have intentionally not looked at the text or replied till Sunday night or Monday. By delaying my desire just a day or two, I usually build a lot more attraction in her. To the point they start chasing me.

Step 6: Make Her Chase You

I know this one flies in the face of most of the bullshit articles and advice in the world… because it just doesn’t sound right.

But this WORKS. And I don’t care about sound right, I care about getting what I want.

Like my last example above, a confident and charming man that teases, doesn’t make apologies for who he is and that looks like he has girls that want him will find that by ignoring a girl (on purpose or really being busy) will make her start to chase you.

She will want to feel the emotions you gave her, and she will wonder why her sex and beauty doesn’t have your groveling at her feet like every other Soy-boy in our world today.

I go out of my to spark attraction then withdraw for a short time. It’s like taking a drug. The girls want the drug more, and when they can’t get immediate attention from you, they let their mind roam.

The best way to have a girl wanting you is for her to constantly be thinking about you without your interference.

A girl chasing you can’t really dump you, can she?

Step 7: Spend Time With Her

A date should be no more than you two getting together for a couple of hours and then hooking up.

In my world, that is usually meet for a couple of drinks near my place, then if I have built attraction and she is digging it, I simply invite her back to my house for a glass of wine and a movie.

The concept is super simple, so don’t over think this. If you try to impress her by spending lots of money on her and taking her to do fun an exciting things you will likely have the conclusion I had doing the same thing.

Blue balls and less money.

A real simple way to get around dinner and movies is in HOW you ask. This can be done by text or phone… and this is the jest of it.

You: “What time are you eating dinner?”

Her: “Probably around 7. Why?”

You (don’t answer the question, instead): “So you will likely be done by 9, yes?”

Her: “Yes, I should be.”

You: “Great meet me at X place at 9:30 for a drink.”

That’s it. If a girl will not either come to your place, let you come to her place or meet you for a drink, she is not that into you.

All is not lost, but you need to amp the attraction in her.

Step 8: Hook Up

After the first or second date, she should want to at least make out with you. I am rather experienced at this, so usually by the 2nd meet for drinks she is ready to sleep with me.

Don’t be thinking about this from an “I hope she wants to kiss me…”

Screw that. Your mindset is “Every girl wants to bang me, now prove you are worth my time.”

More often than not, with this mindset the girl will easily make herself available. If she is feeling attraction for you she will got out of her way to touch you, kiss you, and even make it known she wants you.

Step 9: Decide If You Want Her

Having a girlfriend is a pain in the ass. Not as much as having a wife, or a live in, but still a pain.

When I first started learning how to build attraction in women, I just wanted a girlfriend.

I found, once I got good at building attraction I didn’t want just one girlfriend. I wanted a dozen.

And I dated a dozen for many months. Most of the bisexual.

If she feels attraction for you and has banged you, you are in.

Do not try to force or even ask her into a relationship. You should really not be sure if you want to lose your freedom.

She has to feel like she is wining you over from all the other women. She has to ask you, “What are we?” or “Where is this going?”

She also has to say she likes you, loves you and wants you FIRST.

I have a standard line for the first time a girl tells me they love me…

“I know.”

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$1,000 shopping sprees…

$4,000 cruises….

$1,000 dinners with the limo…

And these were just FIRST dates…

Guess where that got me?

It got me a TON of first dates… with very little sex and no relationships.

Of course girls will go out with you if you are willing to throw away hundreds or even thousands of bucks for them to have a good time. Doesn’t mean they like, love, desire or want you.

Actually, as I have gotten older and learned not to do this. You wouldn’t believe how many girls tell me about the “wealthy” guys in their life that is buying them cars, clothes, apartments, jewelry and more… all while they are snuggled up to me naked in bed.

In general… a typical date should never be more than you buying a couple of drinks.

Trust me on this… if she doesn’t feel attraction and sexual tension after an hour of having a couple of drinks, no amount of FREE SHIT is going to sway her.

And if it does, she isn’t a date; she is a high price hooker.

Let’s be honest. I wasn’t taking a girl on a date to talk politics, or find out who she really was deep inside. I don’t even give a shit about that till after I have f*cked her and seen her naked. If I liked her body, if I liked how sex felt, then I would want to no more about her character…

If I didn’t like her body or sex, I wouldn’t even want to see her again.

Pretty simple dating and relationship steps for me.

I really don’t do the “several dates” and wait before sex. Those types of girls are usually using you for fun, and banging someone else.

If she doesn’t feel the chemistry to bang me by the second “drink date”, then I am off to the other women in my life. I have stopped trying to convince girls to like me…

And if you go cold after a couple of dates and you have been triggering sexual attraction, she will find you and jump your bones – no date needed.

Back in my player days, I had hundreds of girls go on expensive dates with men, get dropped of later that night and come climb in my bed.

I didn’t pay for ANYTHING – nor did I promise them anything. All I did was build massive sexual attraction in them… and you just know they aren’t telling the Nice Guy the truth.

Even with girls I had been with for a long time had this same issue… expensive and long dates never helped me get laid – even with them.

My ideal of a perfect date was doing something kind of fun, having a few drinks, going home and screwing for hours.

Those nights I got roped into a play, huge concert or even a big group out at a night club SUCKED.

Sure I had fun out at the club, but after hours of dancing or drinking, the girls were usually too drunk or tired to want to do anything. Even if they did want to, they were usually less than spectacular performances.

I want a girl losing her mind in bed… not passed out.

And even worst is when they want to stop for that 2 AM breakfast after a night of drinking. I promise, no girl wants to be pounded after eating a huge, greasy plate of food at 2 AM.

From my perspective, those dates are a complete waste of time – if I wasn’t the one that wanted to go do whatever… and usually I am not, these expensive and long dates never helped get me laid.

Many times, when a girl was just DYING to go see this country star, or the rock band, or even her favorite play, they would want to start with dinner, then go to the main event. This means a date of about 6-8 hours… before the logistics are even right for sex.

Not to mention the money spent.

For me, the best dates are meeting her at your place or somewhere very close, having a few drinks, busting her with my charismatic chops, and going home to f*ck.

That doesn’t mean I don’t take girls to do fun things… I just don’t usually do it on their terms.

I love riding my motorcycle and use to do Drive-In, Dinners and Dives on the loop with my buds. Half the time I had a different girl riding bitch. A drink here, a bite there, back at my place by 8ish and banging till midnight. Total date with gas was usually under $50 bucks – these places are not known for being expensive.

Now that’s fun.

I do have one exception for expensive dates.

Business!

I have been fortunate to have been invited to many banquets, business diners, award ceremonies and such.

I know men and women judge men on the quality of the girl they date. You show up with a hot, young and fun girl, networking is easier, business deals flow faster, and you immediately gain social status and power.

Many of these times the 20 something girl I am dating does not have the right clothes. If I let her wear her favorite dress she will look like a 20 something club girl or a high price call girl. These are the only times I splurge and take a girl shopping. One nice, attractive yet practical outfit for whatever function we have.

I want her to shine for MY advancement – not hers.

I will also make her wear a slutty set of lingerie to remind her while sitting in it all night, just what type of man she is with.

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Or even worse… ever see a gorgeous woman that made your heart flutter only to turn and leave because you felt YOU weren’t GOOD enough for HER?

Well, you my friend might just be a gigantic pussy.

I know this for a fact…. I was too at one time.

This is the biggest area of my internal attitude that I have worked on for the last 20 years.

Not confidence…

Not rapport…

Just working on my internal fears and limiting beliefs.

But I can show you how to overcome your fear of rejection and failure in a matter of days.

The State Of Fear

I get a lot of emails about “what do I do if she does this…?”

“What do I do if she doesn’t text back?”

“What do I do if she gets mad?”

I get it. There was a time I started off and I had these fears and concerns too. I was always worried about saying things just right, or using the exact routine to make the girl like me.

As a millionaire I had so many hot girls use me and walk away after the first date or two I was terrified of trying to date again after I lost my wealth. I didn’t think I had anything to offer them.

I have coached a lot of people to do a lot of different things in life and the Fear of Rejection or Fear of Failure (which is basically the same thing to me) are the Number 1 reason so many people struggle in life.

These fears prevent great and successful men from attracting the girls they want to be with.

These are the same fears that prevent great guys from approaching girls they like.

Removing these fears and just being “present” is what is called the “Winners Zone” in sports.

I am going to give you three things right now that will help you to overcome these fears in no time at all. Getting rid of these fears is the beginning of you getting ANYTHING you want in life.

There are 3 Steps to Overcoming Fear and Rejection

• 1) Reframe the fear in the consciousness
• 2) Train the subconscious to accept the reframe
• 3) Reinforce the subconscious change.

Now, this can be done in a matter of moments… but usually takes a few days to start the change, and weeks to cement the change into a permanent change.

Reframe the Fear in the Consciousness

Most fears are irrational. We fear approaching the gorgeous girl because in our mind we place too much value on her… and not enough value on ourselves.

Most guys will have an internal dialogue like this one: “I’m not good looking enough to get an attractive woman.” OR “She would never be attracted to someone as: old, young, poor, short, tall, bald, fat, etc… as me.”

A few easy reframes that you can mentally say to yourself are:

“I have seen gorgeous women like her with men as: old, young, poor, short, tall, bald, fat, etc… as me.”

“Is it not true that I have seen men who are much worse looking than I am with attractive women?”

“Is it not true that women place more value on personality than looks/money/other issue?”

“Is it not true that I have attractive qualities that at least one attractive woman could admire?”

And so on.

The idea is to break the conscious mind from building up a wall against what you want using fear. By reframing, we consciously decide that other possibilities could be true.

Just reframing limiting beliefs is not enough though.

Have you ever told yourself “I am a great guy and catch any woman would want” only to have subconscious voice in your mind say things like:

“No you are not…”

“Then why don’t you have beautiful woman in your life?”

And back to the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs you go.

You can literally feel your mood become grim.

That brings up point #2.

Train the subconscious to accept the reframe

The subconscious is an amazing tool that allows us to focus on one task, while preforming dozens of other.

For example, have you ever had a challenge or problem for school, work or life that you kept thinking of solutions too?

Let’s say it was a work problem, something you knew you could solve, but hadn’t yet. You get this problem just as you are leaving to go home. You let your mind focus on trying out different solutions and letting your mind wonder what the potential outcome of each solution could be.

All of a sudden you are home.

You don’t remember getting in the car…

Turning out of the parking lot…

Merging with all the traffic…

Or dozens of minute details about the trip home.

You are just home.

That is your subconscious taking over and taking you home.

That same mechanism can not only be engaged, it can be trained so that you actually operate “on autopilot” and naturally.

You can do some research on this, but advertisers have used subliminal messages to influence the subconscious to make you react to advertisements.

Film makers use subliminal messages to elicit strong subconscious and emotional responses in you towards their movies.

The Air Force uses subliminal training for drone pilots to help their subconscious mind quickly identify friend vs. foe on the battlefield.

If you have read any “Law of Attraction” or “Think and Grow Rich” they recommend writing down your desired outcome and reading it from your card several times a day.

This approach is to force, by willpower and mental repetition, the subconscious mind to believe the desired outcome… in this case a lack of fear.

This takes a while, and requires a lot of effort.

Personally, I am lazy, so I found a trick on how the change your subconscious mind very fast.

Subliminal Programs. Just prerecorded messages you want your subconscious mind to accept and operate on.

The messages are recorded just above the conscious ability to hear… but the subconscious mind can hear them and understand them.

I simply listen to subconscious programs on all of the things I try to improve in my life. And I started using these techniques 15 years ago to overcome my own perceived weaknesses and fears.

But there is still one more step…

Reinforce the subconscious change.

This is where the rubber meets the road so to speak.

Anything programmed in your subconscious has been accepted as a “true” sub routine.

What I mean by this is your subconscious can and will do what it believes to be true.

So, if you are telling yourself you are not an attractive man, and you will never overcome your fear of rejection, you will never approach, and likely never have any success with women.

And you subconscious mind see’s this feedback loop as “true” and you will never develop the personality or vibe of the man that has women approach him.

But, as you are listening to the subliminal programs you will tend to feel opportunities to act. To say or do something you normally wouldn’t…

You know, like Challenge, Flirt…. Or dare I say, even approach the girl and get an instant date.

If you are a guy that feels a lot of stress when wanting to meet, approach, talk to or date a woman you see as hot, then you have no idea how big the world.

I could tell you stories of how I have simply told a girl “No” to one of her commands, not backed down while laughing at her only to have her blowing me in the bathroom within 15 minutes.

It won’t make sense to you if you haven’t experienced.

But it is the truth.

So as you listen to the subliminal programs you HAVE to pay attention at how you naturally change.

You do these 3 things, and you will never feel powerless to fear or rejection again.

I know… I have had to work the hardest on this area. More than anything else in my life.

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With that, fast forwarding a few years with learning the sexual triggers of women and I have accomplished everything but the large quantity of money in the bank. I am rebuilding my wealth and that is the hardest part of this entire video.

Keep in mind, if you learn how to trigger sexual attraction by demonstrating Alpha dominant traits, you don’t need to buy, pay, marry or keep a woman. You can have a harem of sorts without the financial burden associated with it.

And you can live happily ever after!

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Lucas it is a good question, and one I may not be the best qualified to answer. Friendships have never been my focus.

I do have a large amount of business contacts. I do have many circles of people that consider me a friend and want me to go do things with them. I am horrible at keeping up with everyone though.

I didn’t set out to build this social circle; I just did the things I love to do. And if I am going to do them, I want to be the absolute best, so I spend focused time perfecting all of my chosen skills and hobbies. This helps a lot with being the leader of any group. Men and women follow confidence and competence. Know what you are doing and do it… everyone else will join in and follow.

In business, I am not trying to win friends. I am focused on my mission, whatever that might be. It usually is around driving higher revenue and more profit. So at work I do the things it takes to make this happen.

I do have a few close friends from my current and past businesses. These were men that I just “clicked” with that also had the same goals…. Drive more revenue and higher profits. I do go have dinner, or drinks and other events with these guys. I never socialize with women from work…. It is too risky.

At the gym I am focused on building the best body I personally can. When I lift I go to complete and utter failure. I hold nothing back. And night after night, rep after rep, I have built a reputation as a strong and focused bodybuilder. All of the men and women that show up and lift with a dedicated regime know me. We have a common goal, and over time I have just got a long with them. Sometimes I go have dinner, drinks or other activities with these groups.

My next big hobby is shooting. I am a tactical range officer and I shoot 4-8 times per month. Typically 500-1000 rounds per week. In doing something I love I meet lots of men and women that also share a love for the sport. It is very easy to talk about our weapons, and hacks we have found to increase our skills.

In thinking this trough there are a couple of traits that have given me such a huge circle of friends. First, my communication skills. I spend a lot of time teaching men to communicate better with women, but these same skills apply to all communications. When you develop extreme confidence it is just natural and easy to treat people like friends. I just naturally assume they will like me, and I talk easily with people. If they are doing something I like, I ask about it.

Second, my lack of need. I am always busy. Very rarely am I sitting at home wondering what to do. Most of the time I have a schedule booked up for weeks in advance. By not ever being needy I bring positive energy to my interactions. I am not trying to get validation or anything else from other people. With this type of energy, people actually feel the positive energy I radiate, and they naturally want to be around me.

Now, after my accident I lost my large circle for a while. I didn’t socialize much for nearly 2 years. It took a lot of time and effort to heal and get back with the world.

So I didn’t try to make a large group of friends. I just went and did those things I love, and in doing them, I met a lot of people. It took time, but my focus is never on trying to make friends or pick up women… my focus is always doing things I love and bettering my own skills. I think this is really key.

I encourage you to do the same. Do things you really want to do, that you have a passion for. In doing those things, you will naturally meet people that like doing the same things.

When you talk to people, don’t brag about your skills… let them naturally find out. But do ask them about themselves. This is not a seduction technique, but rather a communication skill. People love to talk about themselves, so just ask them about their passions. That’s pretty much how it starts.

Most of the time, people ask me for my number, and I freely give it. Rarely do I ask. I believe in attracting things to me, not pursuing them, if that makes sense.

Typically, in a non-work area I follow two basic rules: 1) Tease women 2) Comment to men.
I flirt and tease with women, and with men I comment on something I like or ask them about something they have or they are doing. It’s pretty simple really. When dealing with men, simply be genuine and interested in whatever you ask them.

And talk to people.

In my training, I encourage students to go out to a mall and practice talking with anyone. It is a skill, and with a little practice you will rapidly learn how to build rapport, build comfort and find out what makes the other person tick (calibrate).

Just this last weekend my son, his girlfriend me and my date went to six flags. During the course of the day, I talked to at least 200 people. Mostly standing in line. About 60% were girls, and 40% were men. Most interactions created a group of us laughing and joking… which builds attraction in the date, and sometimes can add to the harem. Only had one interaction with a group of feminist lesbians go bad… and even then I knew it was a long shot before I opened my mouth. But I just couldn’t pass up the opportunity. 3 land whales, one mangina and one actual pretty feminine girl. She was the only one that smiled.

Hope this helps.

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What a simple but great question.

The answer is also short and simple.

Be attractive.

That’s really all there is to it. Whatever you did to attract the girl, at a minimum, you have to do at least that much.

You see, the only thing that matters to her is how she feels about you. If she feels enough sexual attraction (as in you keep triggering sexual attraction) and she feels you are a high sexual market value man, then she will long to be with you. Even a walk around the neighborhood is exciting for her.

If, like me in the past, you stop doing the things that attracted her, then her feelings of sexual tension and your perceived value are going to drop.

The less she feels attraction for you, the more she will complain, and nag, bitch and fuss. Sex will go down, and fights will go up.

Understand, every day you should be working to increase your perceived sexual market value.

In order I would:

1) Amp Your Masculine Energy.

This is really your manly, confident core. Always try to be confident, playful, sexually attractive (as in verbally creating sexual tension) and focused on your goal (mission and business). The higher your masculine energy, the more she will be attracted to you. The higher your masculine energy, the more likely she is to feel sexual tension and attraction.

Most of this masculine energy is what you radiate. It is what you believe about yourself in your subconscious. If you believe you are a masculine, confident man she will feel this and that is a primary sexual trigger.

Don’t be needy, insecure, weak, whiny or a wussy.

Weak is never attractive on men.

2) Increase your Physical Fitness Level

You should know that how athletic you are impacts not only how she sees and feels about you, but also how you see and feel about yourself. The more physically fit you are, the higher your sexual market value. I have felt this in my own relationships when I either let myself go, or had an injury that took a long time to heal from.

As a side note, if your relationship is starting to feel stale, starting a new fitness routine where you rapidly increase your sexual attractiveness will not only make you feel more confident, it will naturally make her worried… If she thinks you are looking better then so will other girls. If the relationship has been stale, she will feel the natural desire to try harder or risk losing you.

3) Treat All Women The Same

That is to say, flirt, tease, be playful and talk to everyone. If she constantly sees other girls positively interacting with you it increases your perceived marketplace value. No girl wants to be with the guy that no other girl wants – they all want to be with the Alpha that already has lots of women. Think of yourself as the sexiest and most fun man alive, and then radiate that.

Now, I didn’t say pick up, or cheat with these other women, but keep your flirting and attraction skills honed. The more she believes she can be easily replaced, the less likely she is to ever stray.

4) Never Chase Her

This is what most men do when they feel a relationship is failing. They call more, they text more, and they say more sweet things… all in order for her to say them back so he will feel better. This is weak and needy, and everyone can feel this – I have been this man most of my life. I really get the feelings to connect… but this is the wrong way.

You are better off pulling back. Text less, talk less and let her feel the void and miss you. If you are doing the other steps, she will naturally start pursuing you more. It’s just how women are built.

Do less, not more.

5) Have Fun

After the courtship and seduction, your role as a man is to be masculine and have fun. Never take her too seriously. In most day-to-day interactions you want to be playful and teasing. Love is supposed to be fun. You simply need to have fun with her, spend time with her, and create an atmosphere for sex to happen naturally. You do these things, and she will fall deeply in love with you and always be chasing you.

Every problem I have had with a girl I wanted to keep has come from not doing these things. Every time I have wanted to get an ex back, revive a failing relationship or seduce a new girl, these are the exact areas I focus on.

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For example, take the personality trait “kindness”.

If you read the general purpose “what women want” articles written by women or men that don’t date very hot women, you will find that many people say “kindness” is something women want.

However, what women say and what they actually respond to are generally different. In most cases, when a woman says she wants “kindness”, she is seeing an Alpha man that has already triggered high levels of attraction in her mind.

In one study, the responsiveness (another way of saying kindness and attentiveness) of male partners on a first date impacted how attractive the man was perceived to be.

– Society for Personality and Social Psychology

Yep, you read that right: the less responsive guys were (i.e. the less kind they were), the more attractive women found them. Let that sink in.

With that, we are going to look at both positive and negative sexual triggers to understand how the trait generally impacts sexual attraction in women.

Positive Sexual Triggers

These Positive Sexual Triggers actually make a girl feel more attraction towards the man. That does not mean she will say she likes it. Many of the positive sexual triggers actually increases a woman’s frustration level as well. The higher her attraction, the less you are controlled by her, the higher her frustration level is also going to be.

I have also added in “Temporary Satisfaction” and “Long Term Satisfaction” as I have seen these play out in real life, and will help men understand why we do some of the dumb things we do. You will notice that many of the personality traits that lower attraction, actually INCREASES Temporary Satisfaction. That means the girl thinks she likes it (or actually does) but it erodes sexual attraction many times by just releasing the tension.

As with most of life and our media, we tend to see what should work, not what really works. That is why we have a generation of weak men that have no idea how to really seduce a woman. We spend way too much time doing what they say they want, rather than what really works.

Aloofness

Aloofness is a noun meaning a state of being distant, remote, or withdrawn. Someone showing aloofness might be shy, or just really doesn’t want to be around people. Aloof

It has been proven time and again that women are more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear (Association for Psychological Science). Being shy is not the turn on, but being distant and aloof with a girl communicates to her you are not “blown away with her”, hence she sees you as a challenge, and will work to get your attention. This is a very common theme for many of these Positive Attraction Triggers.

Breaking Social Rules

Want to know why so many hot women love Trump…? It is not for his money, but his brutal honesty and ability to break social rules.

– Scientific America

Part of the key here is to know the rules, and selectively break them when it is advantageous for you to do so. This requires a lot of social skill with an understanding of calibration, and demonstrates confidence, fearlessness and preselection by other women.

Challenge

I write a lot about challenge. This builds tension, sparks attraction and is my favorite tool to flirt and attract women. Being a challenge also demonstrates a high level of preselection as only men that have lots of women will risk offending them… which actually has the opposite effect and attracts women more.

Communication Skills

Communication skills are a key to just about anything when dealing with people. It is understanding not only what to say, but what not to say. It allows a person to build rapport, trigger comfort and demonstrates social intelligence.

Once again, the key is know what not to say as much as what to say.

Confidence

Everyone knows this, but so many people lack true confidence.

Confidence not only displays “survival” ability, it also demonstrates social intelligence and preselction. Men that are confident tend to do well with ladies, hence when women meet a confident man they automatically assume he has other women and is desired. Nice little evolutionary trick right there.

Dominance

dom·i·nance – noun: power and influence over others.

Just being dominant and in control of your own emotions and life triggers attraction. I have found the more dominance rules I have for bedroom play, the more attractive I am and the better sex the girl has.

Fearlessness

Fearlessness also demonstrates confidence that you can do whatever you want and come out on top. It is a skill of learned discipline and calculated risk. That is especially true when it fearlessness around how a woman will react to you.

Honesty

Most people say they are honest, and most are lying about that.

As a sexual trigger, brutal but selective honesty is the key. You can’t hope you are the prize, you have to know it. When you are communicating with a girl, being honest will be felt as congruent and trigger attraction. Being dishonest is felt as deception and trigger danger alerts in the mind.

For example, if the old me approached a girl and offered to buy her a drink because I was nice (which is a self lie… I was buying the drink to get her attention), she is going to feel I am doing it to “trick” her or obligate her into spending time with me. This makes most girls say no, or say yes, take the drink and leave.

I have had better results just telling a girl she has nice tits – and even just grabbing one. Bold, broke social norms and very honest.

Now honesty does not mean being an open book, it means you are very congruent with your life. If you say you don’t date girls with short hair, you had better not be dating girls with short hair.

Leaders

I almost left this one out. Leadership is a display of confidence, social intelligence, risk taking and ambition. Leaders tend to influence others to help achieve goals which is also a display of dominance.

A new study has shown a full 15% of women has admitted to sleeping with the boss ( – Business Insider). From my experience, more that half would have if the boss had wanted them and acted on it. Power is an aphrodisiac.

Masculinity

Ever single time I find myself in a problem spot with a woman, I work to amp my masculinity. It always works to increase her attraction to me.

Masculine traits include courage, independence and assertiveness.

What Women Find Sexy – Psychology Today

Masculinity is also reflected in your overall strength and size. That’s why a man should always focus on his diet and fitness.

Mysterious

Nice guys try to make life very easy for the girl. They display everything, they share everything about how they feel, and they remove the mystery. This completely removes the “dream” a girl has about finding the right guy. To fall for you, she has to think about you, and if you tell her everything right at the beginning she has nothing to work with.

Being mysterious is also one part of being a challenge, but it has an additional component in confidence. Men with little confidence always try to impress the girl and share everything about themselves. The mysterious man is subtly communicating he can take her or leave her, which tends to make him look of higher sexual value than the girl.

Non-Compliance

One of my absolute favorites. Not only are girls more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear, they love a man they cannot control. Many times women will “shit test” men to judge how much the guy likes them, how confident and strong he is, or even how important she is to him.

Passion

Many men think they have to be rich to get hot girls. I was one of these guys back in my 20’s. The truth is, a man that is passionate about his goals and life triggers more attraction than nice men with money.

Men with passion are displaying a masculine trait of purpose. The desire and drive to achieve their goals. It also subtly demonstrates that the woman is not the center of his world increasing her desire to attract him more.

Preselection

This is by far the best sexual trigger, and the hardest to fake. Many of the sexual triggers subtly hint that a man has a lot of choice in the sexual market – as in women love him aka preselction. But nothing actually beats being out with hot women meeting more hot women.

The absolute easiest pickups in my life is when one of my hot bisexual girlfriends and I went out to meet other women.

Research also shows that women think men with sexual partners are more attractive (- New Scientist).

Risk Taker

In this study women rated the attractiveness of risk takers…

 
As a risk taker I can tell you the motorcycle jacket and ripped jeans attracts a lot more hot girls than the $2000 suit.

Self-Centeredness

Researchers at Hartpury College in England studied 146 British women aged 18-24 and found even women with a high quantity of dating experience are still geared towards partners displaying narcissistic ( – ScienceDirect) (read: self centered) characteristics.

The more you put yourself first, the more attraction you will make her feel.

A lot of times when a girl ask why I am doing something (usually something very kinky) I give her the most self-centered answer I can. My answer is also brutally honest and short…

“Because I like it.”

Sense Of Humor

The key with humor is to see humor in her nonsense. Tease her, joke with her, laugh at her too. Love is supposed to be fun.

Now, I never recommend you become her home entertainment center. The humor you use is to typically demonstrate your higher sexual market value.

Take It Or Leave It Attitude

The absolutely strongest negotiating position to be in is the “Take It Or Leave It” mentality. When you have this attitude you communicate higher sexual value than you place on the girl. Girls never date their equal, they always date up and this triggers that “hypergamy” mentality.

Negative Sexual Triggers

Now, many of these traits will hit a nerve. Girls will say “that’s not what they want” in a man at all. The media and movies all have our hero displaying some of these traits and winning the girl.

I could care less what girls say or movies portray.

I gave up trying to make everything fit what I thought it should be and just started seeing reality for what it is.

Girls chase guys that have the “I am the prize” mentality. They don’t typically date “nice” guys. At least not more than once.

One thing you may note is a lot of these Negative Sexual Triggers also have Temporary boost in Satisfaction. Take Over Pursuit as a perfect example. You meet a new girl and you both have instant chemistry. You get her number and you are so excited! You text her what a good time you had meeting her. The next day you text hello. She text back but after a few text you don’t hear from her again.

Over the next week you text her a few more times and never hear anything. She temporarily liked you texting… but it lowers her attraction by making you look too available and needy.

Apologizing

If you really pay attention, nice guys apologize to women all the damn time. The apologize for everything. And this has been proven to be seen as weak ( – Psychology Today).

Guys that feel they have more sexual value than the girl never apologize.

I try to stay grounded. If I really fucked up, I apologize. But that is very rare.

If you don’t believe me, the next time you have an argument with a woman, apologize a lot… she will likely attack you more. She will also withdraw from you more.

But if you hold your ground you look stronger and hence trigger attraction. A girl does not have to like you to sleep with you, she just has to feel attraction.

Approval Seeking

If your strength or confidence comes from what another person thinks of you (let alone a girl) then your world can be shattered on a whim. There is no stability or security in people that seek approval.

– ‘Social,’ by Matthew D. Lieberman

My theory is this… the Alpha, or simply the mentally strong, shrugged off this norm to fit in so they could try new things and discover new ways of doing things. They didn’t follow social norms which looks Brave, Confident and Breaks Social Norms, all of which trigger attraction.

Dependability

Ever heard of Intermittent Reinforcement and the Persistence of Behavior – Universitat Pompeu Fabra ? This is the scientific reason why people become addicted to gambling. Or another person.

I noticed very early on in my dating career, when a girl was hot and cold with me I liked them more. When they text back, flirted, dated me then disappeared for several days I actually felt my attraction go up. Even if I wasn’t that into them at first.

It is a simple concept really. If you are predictable or dependable in a love situation you lower attraction by not offering a challenge and you look like your sexual market value is below your mates.

– The Secret to Turning Friendship Into Romance

Gift Giving

– What Message Do Your Gifts Send? ( – Psychology Today)

Gift giving is the same as many of the Negative Sexual Triggers. A girl will “like” it, but it subconsciously communicates lower value.

Most people look at a gift from an unknown person with suspicion. “If I don’t know them, why would they give this to me unless the want something…”

The guy that has lot’s of choices with women is not going to try and buy her with expensive gifts, dinners, trips or anything else. His gift to her is simply his time.

Kindness

This is very closely associated with “Gift Giving”.

Many men will “do nice” things for hot girls they wont do for men. This triggers the same internal dynamics as if he gave her a gift since the act of kindness is typically done to make her feel like she “owes” him.

Better to have her do kind things for you.

Neediness

– PPC.edu

And that perfectly describes why “need” lowers attraction. It communicates low self esteem and that you are starving (as in attention from attractive females). A man in demand simply does not have time to display any of these needy traits.

Over Pursuit

You know the fastest way for a bully or criminal to feel empowered and attack you? Try to flee or avoid them.

This is a basic animal/human trait. We really do pursue that which flees.

The opposite is also true.

If your relationship is having a rough spot, retreat a bit. If the partner still has any attraction to you at all they will start pursuing you to fill that void.

As a high value man, I just don’t pursue women. The one time in my life I was dating the most women I simply told them “I didn’t take girls numbers, if they wanted to see me, they would have to take my number and text me.” The results were amazing. While an extreme example, more girls were instantly attracted to the challenge and did text/pursue me.

– Interacting with women can impair men’s cognitive functioning – ScienceDirect

From experience men that do not display this lower cognitive ability (as in chase, be nice, gift giving, etc.) were displaying large levels of previous interaction with attractive women.

In addition, the fastest way to increase sexual desire in a potential mate is to communicate you are hard to get (or almost unattainable).

– Who’s chasing whom? The impact of gender and relationship status on mate poaching – ScienceDirect

Predictability

– Novelty or Surprise? – Frontiers in Psychology

Predictable becomes boring… but when you don’t do as expected you actually activate the part of the brain that focuses attention. People, in general, will then spend time trying to figure out what the “surprise” meant.

– Dull Days Wreck A Marriage Faster Than Fighting

Telling Your Feelings

Not only does this take away the “surprise” element, it also lowers attraction by removing the desire of women to want to earn you. She wants a man all the other women want, and she wants to feel she earned it.

Science proves that Women Are More Attracted to Men Whose Feelings Are Unclear.

If you really want to give her what she craves, don’t tell her how you feel. Let her wonder about it and figure it out.

Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a feminine trait, and while most research suggest a man displaying a vulnerable side will create a deeper emotional state, my experience is the exact opposite. This may be because the old me was a sap and used bad things that happened in my life to “try to get the girl to like me”. Typically, feminine traits should stay with the feminine role… and that is not the Alpha male.

– Flirting Fascination

Truly being vulnerable did create an emotional bond with my girl when I damaged my neck and was paralyzed. But I wasn’t playing around and seduction was the furthest thing from my mind.

For most men, completely eliminating the vulnerability side of your nature will increase attraction rather than lower it. Don’t believe me? Ask all those hot girls that complain about the jerks they dated and ask them how vulnerable the men where. You are going to get back blank stares.

They will then describe Passion for his mission as him being “vulnerable”. Not the same thing at all.

Weakness

Want to know why women like tall men? It’s not because they like the look of nose hair. No, height is correlated to muscle mass and STRENGTH.

Strength is masculine. Strength is power. Strength is the ability to take a blow and keep going.

– Why Women Want Tall Men

The best thing about this height and power “bit” is height is only a correlation to power. Physical strength and athletic ability are direct correlations and is not dependent on height. Building muscle on a man makes him look more powerful regardless of height.

Your career can also impact some forms of power you display. Chicks do dig money and power.

The last part is the attitude of the man. Most of the Positive Sexual Triggers are masculine, male and definitely display social experience and/or strength. Most of them are also displayed through the attitude of the man.

All of the Negative Sexual Triggers display a form of weakness.

Sexual Triggers Conclusion

This has been a long article, so let’s keep the rest short. If your actions display “strength” you can bet they trigger attraction.

Keep in mind, attraction doesn’t mean she likes it. But are you here to be liked or desired?

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Actually it’s a great question.

Everything, all of life, dating, Alpha, business, success, achievement, and anything else really comes down to how you view the situation and the meaning you attach to it. Everything is how both your conscious and subconscious mind sees you and the event.

The big difference between a successful person and a failure is how they view the event and what they do about it. A failure will try something, it won’t work, and they get emotionally hurt and stop trying.

A success tries something, it doesn’t work, so they look at what elements or variables could be changed to increase the odds of a successful outcome. They then try again. And again, and again and so on till they finally figure it out.

This has been my key to my life. I decide what I want, then I learn and try till I get what I want.

I have had thousands of life events that could be seen as failures (many of them sure did feel like it at the time). Many times I have felt like a HUGE failure – primarily before all of the self-education in attraction, the subconscious mind and achievement.

For example, when I first went thru my $8 million dollar bankruptcy, I saw it as a huge failure. I felt I had let down my employees, investors and my family. I also felt I lost what was attractive about me to the opposite sex. With time and wisdom, that experience has taught me how to save other companies and to this day I have saved 4 different companies and over 1000 jobs.

I no longer see that moment as failure; I see it as training for bigger task I had to take on later in life.

If you have read any of my life story, you know the primary reason I began this journey into Alpha was the failure of my marriage. And make no mistake about it, any man that truly loves and desires a woman will feel the sting of failure if she leaves him. Or cheats on him. Or betrays him in any other way.

As for the family, I have never lived the standard 9-5, white house, 2.3 kid’s type of life. For a while different members of my family did give me a hard time… to pick one job and stay there forever, or to settle with one woman, and probably the biggest was to stop dating younger women. Almost every member of my family has expressed displeasure in my dating younger women. They did so more when my mental frame wasn’t as solid as it is today, but they do still sometimes verbally disapprove.

But in my mind, I just don’t care. I love my family, and I always thank them for their input and views… and I keep right on doing whatever I want. I haven’t had a “job” in years…. I own my own business so I have clients. And I make more than half of my family at the moment…. But I spend my money on sports cars, motorcycles, travel and guns… not houses with white picket fences.

Something else you really need to learn, digest and keep with you at all times… you don’t “make” other people happy. They either choose to be happy, or they choose not to be happy. Sure, your actions may impact which way they may swing, but in the end, they are the ones that decide. Once you know this, you will find you feel freer and have more abundance. Their unhappiness is not your problem and out of your control.

Once upon a time, a girl I really loved cheated on me. The old me was devastated. I felt like less of a man, or the guy that couldn’t keep his woman satisfied. Recently a girlfriend left me to fuck another guy. I was offended at her choice, but after a bit of thinking, I just thanked my lucky stars I found out before having more of a life with her that may have reduced my assets and or cost me more time and energy. In a way, that girl did me a favor by showing me who she really was.

Rather than diminish my self-esteem, it made me feel smarter and luckier since I hadn’t married her (with her asking a lot), or invested in her too much. These days I feel better prepared in dealing with new women I meet since I have more experience and I understand the dynamics of why some people do what they do.

Come to think of it, I have probably been rejected more than any man or woman that has read this site. How can I say this? Easy… I approach and meet more people than anyone I have ever met. I have also probably been with more hot girls than anyone reading this site. Since I have been rejected more, am I a success or failure? See what I mean about attaching meaning to an event?

As for getting old… please. I am 20 years older than you and I feel young. I have a very hot girlfriend (younger than you) and I am still hit on by other girls. Had a cute 22 year old randomly give me her number the other day…. Not my kind of girl, but I loved the feeling. This happens to me more now than when I was 27. Once again, whatever you have in your life is what it is for right now… but how you feel about it is up to you. You and you alone, decide what meaning you give to the events in your life.

And think of it this way, I am older, I have severe nerve damage, not as strong, fast or lean as I use to be. However all of life’s lessons have taught me to focus on what I want and the positives around me. This allows me to keep my energy, vibe and general life better. That and I truly feel my wisdom and raw masculine energy more than make up for any reductions in youthful ability. This is how I see myself, and pretty much everyone else is going to see you like you see you.

My last thought on this is to keep in mind these are not excuses for failure. I am always looking for ways to build my business, hone my skills, learn more about relationships and generally enjoy a deeper life. I make mistakes, I fuck up, I let people down and people let me down. The key is to see these as opportunities to improve, to learn to be a better man, and keep sharing your positive energy with the world.

A secret everyone should learn is you attract whatever you focus on. If you focus and place meaning on your life as a failure since you don’t have kids, the “white picket fence” life or the success other people do, you will attract failure.

If, on the other hand, you believe that the skills you are learning now will make your relationships and success that much deeper and bigger, you will attract success and deeper relationships.

It really is all up to you.

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Hi John,

I am sorry to hear about your injury and I wish you the best.

Before we get into this topic, I have to say this: I am not a doctor. I am relating my personal experience; however I am not giving advice. Only you can feel what is going on in your body, and only you can determine what you need to do. I am not telling you to do something against doctors’ orders. I am in no way going to accept responsibility for anyone trying to follow my lifting routine and getting hurt.

With that, here is the article on the damage to my spine…

Now, my doctors told me a whole bunch of shit I would never do again. I still have nerve damage, though it really is getting better. And I do a lot of what I am not supposed to.

I started doing pushups before the doctors wanted me too. They didn’t want me to ever lift again… but that just isn’t me. That doesn’t mean I can do every lift though.

My first focal point was on my diet. I follow a strict HGH diet that focuses on releasing HGH, IGF-1 and maximizing testosterone. I do this because it is the fastest way to build muscle and loose fat with one added benefit. HGH is considered the hormone of youth. It is a hormone that promotes rapid healing. Reportedly, many athletes and stars pay 1,000’s per month to get HGH injections to help them heal, perform better and reduce the signs of aging.

My diet is cheaper and just as fast, so I follow it religiously.

On my road to recovery, I had and have many challenges. Anything above the head to put tension on the neck and sent millions of little shocks through my arms. Ever hit your funny bone and had those little painful tingles tear thru your arms? Just hanging from my arms or putting my arms above my head did that (and still does on pullups).

I cannot put any weight on my neck – no squats, no dead lifts.

Right now, I can only do about 3 pullups – and I use to be able to do 6-8 pullups with 90 lbs. strapped on.

I could barely lift the bar above my head on shoulders, however now I am able to do 6-8 reps, 2-3 sets with 135 and I can lift off myself. I still have a serious spot on these though… I don’t have good control as I experience a lot of that “funny bone” tingle sensation still.

To do this, I started with whatever weight I could (10 lbs. I think) and I went to failure. Every single set, and I was doing 12-18 sets per body part. I also used Static contractions to help strengthen the tendons.

My overall concept was to eat a diet that promoted optimal health, eat as many micro-nutrients, Polyphenols and Phytonutrients as possible while increasing the volume of my lifts (reps & weight).

“Among the benefits of phytonutrients are antioxidant and anti-inflammatory activities. Phytonutrients may also enhance immunity and intercellular communication, repair DNA damage from exposure to toxins, detoxify carcinogens and alter estrogen metabolism. The U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) notes that consuming a phytonutrient-rich diet seems to be an “effective strategy” for reducing cancer and heart disease risks. “ – LiveScience.com

I eat no processed foods – just pure whey isolate protein with the occasional steak, fish or chicken breast along with fresh fruit and vegetables. I also eat a teaspoon of pure cocoa powder (the real bitter non sweetened kind), a teaspoon of Maca powder, 2 teaspoons of Texas Superfood, 4 teaspoons of Peppermint leaves (just poured in my hot tea), and many multiple vitamins and mega doses of vitamin C a day. I do this to promote growth and heal my nerves.

CT Fletcher And The Will To Achieve

Ever heard of CT fletcher? I hadn’t either till I started trying to recover. He is a 6 time world champion power lifter that blew his heart out during a 710 lbs. bench press. He died three times on the operating table. Now he has come back and is a motivational speaker, trainer, and is in better shape at 53 than most 18 year olds.

From him I have learned how to force overload on my muscles without forcing overload on my skeletal structure. I listen to this recording hundreds of times, often while actually lifting. Sometimes I will listen to it 4-5 times back to back in the gym.

So I cannot do dead lifts. Nor can I squat. I can leg press 640 for multiple reps now though. I also focus a lot on isolation and high rep movements.

I can only do 3 pullups due to the lack of being able to control the electrical sparks in my system with my arms above my head, but I can do a lot of volume in rows to my chest. I can’t bend over and hold the weight, so I use Nautilus Rowing equipment, and vary the grip (close and wide) with medium weights, slow tempo and high volume to activate the entire back.

My point is I cannot do everything I once did, but I am learning to change my workout based on how my body feels and what will still force growth and healing.

I don’t have a magic bullet for you to miraculously heal all of your damage, but you can adept your methods, optimize your diet, and still build a champions body. My body is still better than most college guys, and the girls still notice.

Everything is your mindset – everything. If you want it bad enough, you will simply find a way to modify your approach to achieve your goals.

I sincerely hope this helps. If you need any more details, let me know.

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