I have been spending more time answering questions at Reddit and Yahoo Answers and I have really noticed a theme – What should I do in X situation?
What should I do about a girl that wants me as a friend?
What should I wear on a first date?
What do I tell a girl that wants a relationship that I only want to sleep with?
What do I say when I first meet her?
What do I say if she is in a group?
What do I do if she tells me “we need to talk”.
What do I do when she leaves me at a party to go talk to another guy?
And I could go on – I swear.
I know building the frame and understanding of what all of these mean takes a little time, but they are all easy to deal with if you have the correct mental programming. Every one of these could be summed up with the phrase “What would Alpha do?
I learned some years back how to be very good at game. I studied openers, worked on storytelling and learned a bunch of “Pick Up Rules” that helped in some situations (but not in all). But there are 2 main components of what I learned that can be summed up easily:
1) Massive Confidence
2) High Value
You simply must develop massive confidence and half of this site is dedicated to helping you reshape your mind. When you think confident you will act confident, and when you act confident you will be confident. As for “High Value” or “Demonstrating High Value”, this is more of a mindset that is displayed through social interactions. See, having a sports car may or may not have you seen as HV. Same with having a lot of money. I have seen men buy cars for cute little chicks, only to be called creepy by the girl. Money doesn’t necessarily show HV. As a matter of fact, anything that could be described as low value could also be described as HV as proven by all of the murdering rapist that get marriage proposals from women on the outside. Well, almost anything. There is one item that will never be seen as High Value…
If you “need” her more than she needs you – you are done. If you need her to justify or validate you, you are done. If you need her to hold you and solve your problems – it’s game over time.
Since this breakthrough I have only dated hot, young, bisexual women. My own little harem. At anytime I am sleeping with 1-12 and have another dozen girls that I could pull if I wanted.
Now think about this, what if a man that had between 1-20 girls he could call and they would come over and fuck him, what do you think he would do with any of the questions above?
What should I do about a girl that wants me as a friend? – Tell her you have sex with your friends.
What should I wear on a first date? – Whatever you want. She is there to impress you.
What do I tell a girl that wants a relationship that I only want to sleep with? – I don’t want a relationship, but we can go get naked.
What do I say when I first meet her? – Hi, are you bisexual?
What do I say if she is in a group? – Hi, which one of you is the fun one?
What do I do if she tells me “we need to talk”. – No, thank you (and seriously not care if she talks or not).
What do I do when she leaves me at a party to go talk to another guy? – Go pick up another girl at the party so she can see you.
Seriously, you don’t ever get mad, but you also don’t ever get concerned or emotional. The number 1 way to been seen as a sexual man with higher value than her is to have more perceived options. The best way to give social cues that you are a man of options is to not worry at all about her reactions to whatever it is that you say or do. I did not say be mean, I said don’t worry about her reactions.
When you are able to let go of this need to please, to boost your ego, to look good or impress her you will achieve a level of confidence and calm energy like that of a powerful Zen master. When you no longer need something, it is rather easy to get.
“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~Dalai Lama