I recently met a young lady who was reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. I originally teased her that her attitude “would never win any friendship with me” when I saw her with the book. This started a lively debate where she was telling me all of the Dale Carnegie rules I was breaking, while also displaying many signs of extreme interest in me and flirting back hard.
What I found very funny is this is a book that my father forced me to read when I was 15 because he said, “I had a chip on my shoulder.”
This is a great book for everyone to read. If you are in business, sales, or any type of friendly communication, it does have some great tips and pointers.
In my honest opinion though, it is missing the mark in the crimson arts of seduction. So I thought we would do a little comparison.
|How to Win Friends and Influence People||The Crimson Art Of Alpha Seduction|
|Do not criticize. “Criticism is futile because it puts a man on the defensive, and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a man’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses his resentment.” – Dale Carnegies.||Sometimes the only way to rapidly display your higher social standing is to neg her. This is a subtle form of criticism, but usually done in a way that keeps her in the dark about your true intentions.|
|Give honest, sincere appreciation. “Dr. Dewey says the deepest urge in human nature is ‘the desire to be important.’”||Never give her appreciation till she has earned it with her actions. Personally, I find playfully teasing her while busting her balls with the occasional cocky and funny line will increase attraction while giving sincere appreciation early in the interaction will get you slotted with the last 100 guys that approached her.|
|Get the other person’s point of view and see things from his angle. “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from his angle as well as your own.” – Henry Ford||Completely agree. That is why learning the attraction triggers is so important. She really doesn’t want a polite, no challenge, nice man to latch on to her all night. She wants to feel the rush of sexual tension with a man she is unsure of. By learning her point of view you can rapidly elicit her seduction values, and easily use them to give her what she desires.|
|Become genuinely interested in other people. Ask engaging questions to draw out the other persons desires and passions in life.||Do not become genuinely interested in her until after she has become interested in you. Women do not date their equals, they date men they think of are slightly higher social standings. You must calibrate her. You may be aloof when casually meeting her, or you may be playful with banter. But you will let her draw you out first.|
|Smile. “Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, ‘I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.” ― Dale Carnegie||A piercing gaze can ignite a fire. In business, a smile can release tension and make you seem nicer (and less of a threat), however, you must build tension to ignite attraction. Smile less, and study more with a stoic exterior. Let her guess what you are thinking.|
|Remember names. “Remember that a man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in the English language.” ― Dale Carnegie||Remember names, but sometimes use the wrong name. In most business and normal life situations, remembering and using a persons name will have you more liked as a friend. However, when you meet a new girl, tease and flirt with her, sometimes calling her by the wrong name is exactly the slight neg you will need to boost your sexual market value above hers and increase attraction in her.|
|Be a good listener. “Encourage others to talk about themselves”.||Be a good listener. But try to stay away from “negative” energy topics and always make sure to tease, flirt and make the occasional sexual innuendo. She will not feel a fire for the nice guy that just listens.|