How often should I call my girlfriend on phone?

“I have being using your advise and I appreciate it though am now successful with woman. So my question here is that how often should I call my girlfriend on phone?”
– Mubarak

I have seen a lot of debate on this particular topic, so lets talk about this from a what works stand point.

If you are calling and talking to your girlfriend from a very non-needy, sexually charged, powerful frame of energy, then you are likely building attraction and desire in her. Men who understand how to communicate with women like this and understand how to project high value energy will literally break so called rules and be rewarded.

The issue is really the energy you bring to the interaction.

If the energy you bring is one of your desire or need, you will likely be doing damage to the relationship the longer you communicate and call her. No matter how hard you try to not project this energy, if you are pursuing her more than she is pursuing you, you will slowly grate her the wrong way. Your energy should be focused on your own Dark Triad of these three personality traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. I know, it doesn’t seem logical, but being needy is repulsive. Girls simply do not date their equal.

And I know all about this – meet some girl, get all excited and let my mind build this girl up to the point when I did actually call her I would try too hard, try to keep her on the phone too long, and basically display all of the traits of a man with lower value than her.

Many times in high school or college I would call a girl I was dating too much. To the point they stop taking the calls.

In the days of learning game we had some basic rules we would adhere to that would project the Alpha Male persona – to protect ourselves from our own needy nature. At least until our power grew to the point where we could do whatever we want.

So here are some basic thoughts for you:
1) Use the phone to establish get-togethers. The phone is not really used to build attraction or sexual tension. Yes, it can be done, but it is a lot easier, not to mention rewarding, to do it in person.

Now, I know some will say, “But what about if you are in a long-distance relationship?” My first thought is you are not likely as confident or strong a man as you should be. Personally, I would not do a long distance relationship under most circumstances. I know the likely outcomes. I also believe there are plenty of hot young girls within 1 mile of where I live, so why would I want to be tied down with a girl I can’t actually touch?

But what if she is just gone for a week or two? Personally, I hate talking on the phone with my girl. She likes to call me on the way home from work and it drives me nuts. However, when I have traveled, I would call and chat with her for 15 minutes. Just to hear about her day, etc. I would not spend hours talking with her (or any other romantic interest).

2) She should be calling/texting you at least 60% more than you are calling her or texting her. A good litmus test on how Alpha she sees you is this ratio. If you are texting/calling the same amount as her, then she has the power. Not a place Alpha men find themselves in.

3) As you learn all of these social skills, your options should increase. You should have a larger circle of friends, and an even larger group of females that want to spend time with you. Even in a committed relationship, Alpha males only have free time if they want it. Most of the time I find myself too busy to want to talk on the phone, especially with someone I see all the time.