Hello, greetings from Europe, I like your blog and I noticed you’re into dominance and BDSM, it seems most successful men are… so my question is, do you think all alpha-men are naturally dominant and craving for submissive, hot girls?… and incidentally, what do you think of “50 shades of Grey”? Because I’m very amazed at its success, as I cannot believe something so “common” and tame is arousing so many women… is there a total lack of imagination in the USA or what?
Good question. Most successful men (regardless of wealth) know that women are attracted to dominant men. It may be Alpha, it may be BDSM – the outcome is the same, by being a dominant man the women tend to be more feminine and tend to have much better sexual experiences with the man.
I read “50 Shades of Grey” long after my personal discovery – it is tame and a typical romance novel. 21 year old, well educated woman that doesn’t like to dress “sexy” attracts a powerful, dominant and very rich 27 year old billionaire. Thru her submission to him (which he paid for with lavish gifts) she realizes she likes being dominated but is confused about why she feels so turned on when he dominates her. After one severe punishment, she gets “butt hurt” (pun intended) and decides to leave. At this point our strong, powerful, dominant man is heart broken and pleas with her not to leave. She gives all the gifts back and splits.
Strong, independent and beautiful woman
Strong powerful and Alpha man
Conflict: She likes the sexual experience but is not his equal
Fantasy: She leaves him to become independent again and he is heart broken
It’s the average woman’s dream and how she likes to think of herself.
The book was boring, the BDSM tame, and I won’t see the movie. My sub went to see the movie and said she liked the sex scenes but said the movie was cheesy.
It’s success comes from all of the WOMEN that long for a dominant Alpha man.
Here is the question that got me: “is there a total lack of imagination in the USA or what?”
Let’s just take one example: Rape
The feminist movement would try to have you believe that 1-5 college women will be raped in their college years. The truth is women are very safe in our society, period.
From the Bureau of Justice Statistics, a division within DOJ, – Rather than one in five female college students becoming victims of sexual assault, the actual rate is 6.1 per 1,000 students, or 0.61 percent (over a 4 year period, instead of 1-in-5, the real number is 0.03-in-5). For non-students, the rate of sexual assault is 7.6 per 1,000 people. 0.76% . That includes “forcible sexual harassment” and not just rape, but is as close as I could get to the real number.
Oh, and men are raped more than women, however some women would say a man couldn’t get rapped. They are obviously thinking in their very narrow “my safe world” and not reality.
In addition to this, men are bombarded with a bunch of lies that prevent them from being the “good” dominant man and instead teach them to be the “weak” submissive man. And just like the “50 shades of grey” example – she doesn’t want a weak man – she wants a powerful Alpha man that falls so in love with her HE CHANGES to be with her. But once he changes, she isn’t interested anymore as seen by the 71%+ divorce rate of women leaving men.
So, it may seem obvious in your culture, but our culture has beat men down so much that many have been taught to shun their normal strength as being bad – and something women don’t want. A woman’s fantasy, through all of recorded history, is “The Powerful Alpha Man That Changes His Bad Boy Ways And Only Wants Her.”
Yes she wants a guy that is “sweet, faithful, fun, humorous, sweet, caring etc.” as a lot of men in commercials and media are portrayed. What isn’t discussed is she wants the Alpha Man to have masculine Alpha traits FIRST. And if you are a male that is more of the “Nice Guy” that Media and women “say” they want that also displays “sweet, faithful, fun, humorous, sweet, caring etc.” you will be “creepy” to her.
This SNL skit demonstrates it the best. The only difference is the perceived value between these guys.
Well, I went to load it, and the SNL Sexual Harassment & You with Tom Brady is blocked in my country. Apparently, it had too much truth. It went something like this:
In the office, one of the nice looking guys would say something to a girl, and she would claim sexual harassment.
Tom Brady, as an office worker, would go say the same thing, and the girl would melt and want to be with him.
They were making fun of women and how two people saying the same thing could be seen as two different interactions – one good and one bad. SNL also implied Tom Brady had higher sexual market value because of looks and money.
Tom “seems” Alpha so he can do or say anything he wants, but the Beta cannot say anything.
Feminism looks to control men and limit their options, both in sex and wealth, and as men follow these false beliefs, the worse they do with women.
I am trying to change that.