hot-mess-girlI recently got into a lively debate about the destruction wrought in my life by ignoring the obvious and sometimes not-so-obvious signs of bat-shit crazy a female might bring into your life. For arguments sake, these are labeled from “caution” to RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.

A girl with a few flags will likely be a fun “dating” partner, but the more flags she has, the more damage she can do in your life. Proceed with caution.

Here is my list, and how I view the event:

1-flag1 Flag. May be nothing but should not be ignored.
 
2-flags2 Flags. More serious threat to your happiness and wellbeing.
 
3-flags3 Flags. Auto eject. The fun isn’t worth the hassle.
 
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1) She Lies. Like she lies a lot. I have been on a date with a girl that I caught lying at least a dozen times in the conversation. If you can’t trust her to tell you where she works or her current relationship status, you can’t trust her with anything. I have also had girls give the dumbest lies to protect their bad behavior. Sorry, I don’t believe your bible study class is over at 2 AM.
2-flags
 
 
2) She refers to herself as the “princess” all the time. This is has high maintenance and unrealistic expectations written all over it.
1-flag
 
 
3) She constantly says she is looking for her “prince charming”. Just another view of unrealistic expectations. This is also very common with online dating.
1-flag
 
 
4) She cheats on a guy to be with you. My experience is about 60-70% of the girls I have slept with had a boyfriend, fiancé or husband at the time of penetration. It has happened hundreds of times, so much so, I expect it as the rule. But the old rule holds true. If she cheated on her ex, she will cheat on you.
2-flags
 
 
5) If every end of a relationship was horrible. If she defines each breakup as the man being abusive, cheating or otherwise doing something evil to her you can rest assured when you stop dating her she will accuse you too.
2-flags
 
 
6) If she asks you a personal question then flips the shit out with your honest answer. I have had girls ask me if I found such & such girl attractive and get upset when I said yes. I have had bisexual girls get upset when a hotter girl wanted a threesome. These types of girls will ask questions they really don’t want to know the answer to.
1-flag
 
 
7) If the first alone time you have with her she has a mental list of all the things she doesn’t want in a partner. And then she starts telling you the mental list and trying to compare how you match up.
1-flag
 
 
8) She hates her parents. I know, a few parents actually do suck. Most of the time though, the parents were average and she is very rebellious. This type of girl is going to do whatever she wants, whenever she wants, regardless the pain it causes.
2-flags
 
 
9) Her parents are divorced and she only lives with her mom. This can be an indicator of mom poisoning the daughter about dad and men in general.
1-flag
 
 
10) She hates your friends. This is the beginning of isolation for you so she can change you and achieve power in the relationship.
1-flag
 
 
11) She doesn’t want a relationship but wants to keep sleeping with you. I know, sounds perfect, and I have had hundreds of these relationships. This usually means she has an emotional relationship with someone else – usually a boyfriend or husband.
1-flag
 
 
12) Within a few hours of meeting her (or being alone with her) she begins to brag about her sexual ability. I have had girls tell me how good they are at blowjobs within 15 minutes of showing up at my house for the first time. Just look her in her eyes, then at your crotch and ask her, “What are you waiting for?” Works almost every time.
1-flag
 
 
13) If she asks you to list all of the sex acts you have performed. I guarantee this will set her off in a huff of anger when she learns just what you have done to other girls. IF you are inexperienced, she will likely leave you for being boring. Ignore and continue. Or think up and tell her the absolute most perverted things you can think of and enjoy the shock.
2-flags
 
 
14) If she is the type of girl that constantly talks about how independent, strong, and empowered she is. Anyone that really is independent, strong, and empowered doesn’t need to say it. This type of girl is an insecure feminist that will start lots of drama as her Id internally wrestles with her fantasy strength and real world weakness.
1-flag
 
 
15) If she has admitted to stalking an ex. Or is stalking you. This one is truly bat-shit crazy. I did have fun with one girl that I knew was stalking me. I let her follow me (without me knowing it) to a gay bar. She quietly went away after that.
3-flags
 
 
16) She breaks into your home. Yep, I have had both current and ex-lovers break into my home. These are the girls that are so jealous she just has to search your personal property to find out what you are doing. Ever watch “Forensic Files”? Enough said.
3-flags
 
 
17) More than one of her lovers has died. It’s kinda like being stuck by lightning. Twice. And living.
2-flags
 
 
18) And she wants to take out insurance on you.
3-flags
 
 
19) She treats wait staff or retail employees rudely. This type of girl is one that feels she can shit on anyone below her. This type of girl will never be satisfied and will cause lots of drama and even fights in your life. I love to hate-fuck these girls and then ignore them.
1-flag
 
 
20) Similarly, if she has no class. Sure there is a time for crude humor and wild times. However if the girl can never interact with class, she is going to hold you back and bring you down.
1-flag
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21) If she says she’s not crazy or that she doesn’t like drama… she is crazy and she loves drama. Every girl that rapidly told me they didn’t like drama caused the most drama.
2-flags
 
 
22) If she says “SHE IS CRAZY” believe her. Every girl that has said they were crazy were. They were also some of the best lays – and hardest relationship ends I have ever had. This girl is usually less crazy than the girl that says she is not crazy.
1-flag
 
 
23) If she claims every other guy she’s dated is a stalker or abuser (even if she just calls them that) she has likely caused most of the relationship issues and is using the guise of a man stalking or abusing to remove suspicion off of her. Don’t believe me? Ask any divorced man if their ex ever claimed he was mentally or physically abusive.
2-flags
 
 
24) If she says anything to the effect that “every man she has dated has just used her”. This type of girl absolutely needs a guy to treat her like shit and use her. If you are nice, caring and sincere with her she will cheat &/or leave you very fast.
1-flag
 
 
25) Similarly, if she claims to have been sexually assaulted or raped by multiple people or a long term ex. I know, rape happens. Most rape is actually a criminal breaking into their home and attacking them. Not getting drunk with a guy, having sex, and regretting it. In my personal experience, almost 75% of all the girls I have been intimate with have claimed some form of rape from a past man.

According to the FBI ” the rate of forcible rapes in 2012 was estimated at 52.9 per 100,000 female inhabitants.” Assuming that all American women are uniformly at risk (they aren’t), this means the average American woman has a 0.0529 percent chance of being raped each year, or a 99.9471 percent chance of not being raped each year. That means the probability the average American woman is never raped over a 50-year period is 97.4 percent (0.999471 raised to the power 50).

The numbers just don’t add up, and the next man she dates may hear that you are a “rapist”.
2-flags
 
 
26) She always wants you to save her. I have had girl I had1 date with call me and ask me to drive an hour to bring them gas. Or soup because they don’t feel good. Or something broke, etc. This usually is a disguised as she likes you and trusts you and has the added benefit of making the man feel good for solving her problems. The truth is she will ask you to do more, while feeling less sexual towards you as your sexual market value drops.
1-flag
 
 
27) You catch her going through your phone (or computer). I know, all girls will attempt to go thru their boyfriend’s phone. 100% of them. But I have had girls, on a first meet up for drinks, pick up my phone and start asking about the girls listed in it. That’s just bad, bad, bad.
1-flag
 
 
28) Clingy. Sure, in the beginning of a romance, it sometimes feels nice when she is always texting, calling and wanting to be with you. This can be an indicator of a lack of freedom and control of your life by her.
1-flag
 
 
29) She cuts herself. I have known 2 girls that literally cut themselves. Both were amazing lays. 1 broke into my house. 1 slapped me. 1 vandalized my truck. 1 told everyone I abused/raped her. My actual crime – I broke up with them.
2-flags
 
30) She physically beats herself up for sympathy. Yes, one of the hottest girls I ever met gave herself a black eye for the sympathy and to convince me to come stay with her and protect her. She later admitted it was all a lie.
3-flags
 
 
31) If she is constantly texting or on social media during your first meet. You likely haven’t built enough attraction, but this is also an indicator of her desire for drama.
1-flag
 
 
32) Similarly, if she is constantly texting or commenting on social media with her ex.
2-flagshot-beach-babe
 
 
33) I probably shouldn’t have to say this, but if she has a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband you are in danger. Most of the time, I found this information out AFTER I slept with them, but I have had violent men show up at my door.
2-flags If you just want to bang them.
 
 
3-flags Before any emotional relationship.
 
 
34) Attention Whore-itis. If her social media is filled with extremely slutty/sexual photos and she doesn’t get paid for this (like as a model) she is going to be in constant need of approval. For a dominant man, this constant need for approval is like rubbing the back of your legs with a cheese grader.
2-flags
 
 
35) She puts animals above humans. It might be horses, or dogs, cats, etc. but any girl that places value on an animal above a human is going to constantly make your life hell. And you will be the lowest “man” on the totem pole.
2-flags
 
 
36) If she brings up marriage on the first meeting. This girl is more interested in the romantic ideal of marriage rather than bonding with you.
1-flag
 
 
37) OR, if she has been single for awhile, but has a Pinterest or blog dedicated to her unknown wedding.
2-flags
 
 
38) If she mentions having your children in the first 3 dates.
1-flag
 
 
39) If she carries her own condoms around.
2-flags
 
 
40) If she gives you a condom and you notice a hole in it.
3-flags
 
 
41) If she tells you she can’t get pregnant due to a medical condition. I have heard this one a lot. And it has never been true. I believe it is used for sympathy, and because I say I don’t want kids. I also believe they hope to get pregnant. I have known multiple girls under 25 that have told me this that ended up pregnant within 1 year of sleeping with me.
2-flags
 
 
42) If she says, “I’m really mature for my age” at any age. Every time I have heard this I had to deal with the most immature, illogical dumbass decisions.
1-flag
 
 
43) If she says, “she is not like other girls.” Really? You got a penis? Girls that call this out about themselves also tend to fulfill the drama princess role as well.
1-flag
 
 
44) If she can’t keep a secret. It doesn’t matter if it is an ex, or a girlfriend, if she can’t keep a secret she can’t keep your either. And she won’t.
1-flag
 
 
45) If she throws or breaks items when she is mad. I promise, you will make her mad at some point and she will throw or break your most prized processions.
2-flags
 
 
46) If she has threatened to call the cops to get her way. It amazes me how many women will use this threat because she knows who they will believe. That’s why I have portable, digital video recording equipment.
2-flags If you just want to bang her.
 
 
3-flags Before or during any relationship.
 
 
47) If she has called to cops because she was “scared” or because she hit you and you hit her back. Look, if you hit her first, you should be in jail. If she just wants you to comply or she hit you, she is psycho and will continue to use big brother government to force you to obey her.
3-flags
 
 
48) If she shows up at boys night without you inviting her. This one happened a lot in my 20’s.
1-flag
 
 
49) She pretends to be other girls on social media to see if you will flirt back.
1-flag
 
 
50) Bombards you with messages if you haven’t replied within a short amount of time OR gets mad at you if you don’t respond fast enough.
1-flag
 
 
51) If she is so engrossed in her own thoughts and conversation you can put the phone down, go to the bathroom, make a sandwich and comeback to the call and she doesn’t know you are gone.
2-flags
 
 
52) If you haven’t been to her place by the 3rd time you have had sex. This is usually an indicator that lives with another man (or sexual partner).
1-flag
 
 
53) If you go to her place and it smells of cat urine. I have banged this girl. At my place.
2-flags If you just want to bang her.
 
 
3-flags This is what your place will smell like during a relationship.
 
 
54) If she refuses to acknowledge your relationship in public. If she doesn’t want anyone to know she is either using you, has another man, or both.
2-flags
 
 
55) She constantly complains. We all have bad days. But girls tend to bitch more than men, and being around someone that constantly bitches is like walking around with sand in your shorts.
1-flag
 
 
56) If she really believes the world hates her, you are doomed to be her prop.
2-flags
 
 
57) She talks about herself it the third person. This demonstrates a tendency that has contributed to being characterized as narcissistic, self-obsessed and detached from reality. AlphaX knows what he is talking about.
3-flags
 
 
58) If she has a vial of an ex’s blood. Angelina Jolie Pitt may have been a hot piece of ass, but she definitely had a bat-shit crazy phase.
3-flags
 
 
59) If she has or wants a vial of your blood.
2-flags If you just want to bang her.
 
 
3-flags If she also wants to take out insurance.
 
 
60) She can’t admit she is wrong. About anything. Ever. Everyone is wrong at some point and being around a girl that can’t take responsibility or apologize for being wrong tends to be possessed by girls that are always the “victim”.
2-flags
 
 
61) Any girl that mentions her past as a stripper, escort or porn star. I have dated several, and they all have damaged & scorched souls. Many of them have also really experienced sexual assault and rape.
2-flags If you just want to bang them.
 
 
3-flags Before any emotional relationship.
 
 
62) She is a single mom (does not count if her spouse was killed). Having a child is stressful. I know most women file for divorce, and I know the real reason is they just don’t “feel” happy. A single mom with a baby daddy brings a ton of shit and potential drama into your life.
2-flags If you just want to bang them.
 
 
3-flags Before any emotional relationship.
 
 
63) Has she been in foster care? Not her fault and many kids that have endured this life event have become awesome adults. There is a significant amount of kids though that comes out of that system bat-shit crazy.
1-flag
 
 
64) The disrespect you, especially in public. This is very typical of a hot bat-shit crazy girl that is testing your Alpha credentials and social standing. Handle this correctly and she will jump your bones. Handle it poorly and you are her beta slave.
2-flags
 
 
65) If she has ever been committed to a mental institution. Voluntarily or involuntarily – it matters not.
3-flags
 
 
66) IF she ever been treated by a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. Sure we can all have problems, and I would explore this one deeper.
1-flag
 
 
67) Similarly if she has ever been prescribed medication for a mental health issue. I have been around several of these girls. Hot as hell but laden with drama and no understanding of normal boundaries.
2-flags
 
 
68) If she has or has had a history of drugs, or alcohol abuse. These girls can be a lot of fun in the bedroom but tend to bring an airplane load of baggage.
1-flag
 
 
69) If she has been arrested. Girls tend to get the benefit of the doubt in courts. If she has actually been arrested, I would watch my back. And pick up other girls with her.
1-flag
 
 
70) Has she been on Jerry Springer or anything even close. On of the hottest girls I dated in my 20’s was on Springer. Her and her girlfriend completely lied about sexual relationship with teachers. This caused a mess in the highschool she graduated in and was nothing but drama and news.
1-flag
 
 
71) If you actually catch her reading recipes for poison.
3-flags
 
 
If I missed any, leave a comment and let’s add them to the list.

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  1. Nick on November 3, 2016

    Calling the cops is HUGE!! Bail immediately!!! Dont ever look back

    The rape confessions are everywhere these days and it seems to come from women that are also heavy drinkers.

    I want to add to the if she has a boyfriend or husband. I made this mistake and did not heed to the warnings of how dangerous this is. It seems with the rise of fat women thirsty men are dramatically on the rise, if she is hot and your sleeping with her you are in danger. If she has his kids or worst she pays all his bills your not just threatening his relationship but his livelihood, anyone can pull a trigger anyone can find you and HE WILL find you. I moved away but a year later I found out this guy who I thought was a soft pussy was facing hard time for a string of robberies. Lesson learn dont sleep on any guy when you hurt his pride.

  2. Jane Doe on November 27, 2016

    Ok, I actually like reading your insights, as a woman. However, this list is a bit over the top. You’ve ruled out about 85% of female population. – she’s been on medication (it’s 2016, how many people haven’t been handed Zoloft or Klonopin these days, when you say you’re a bit down). Or the therapy thing, many people conceived by parents and their parents’ influence of the Great Depression, World War 2, are kind bound to have some “issues”. Was a generation of “deal with it”.
    Times have changed significantly and it’s a little ignorant to use this against someone who’s at least working on bettering themselves. – been arrested, another one very generalized. Sure, battery, felonies, and the like, same goes for at man out there to stay away from. Shoplifting at age of 16, maybe not a big deal.

    Also, a lot of these “points”, include viscous and misguided direction. The arrested thing, “go find another woman with her” “If she’s rude to service industry… i love to hate-fuck them then ignore them”???? Ok, and that’s not a red flag for a man? These are behaviors that drive a woman to go bat shit. My two cents

    • AlphaX Author on December 2, 2016

      Never said men don’t have issues…. nor that most people don’t have at least one red flag. The point is, the more you see in a single woman, the greater the mans exposure to pain, damage, expenses and even legal issues.

      Personally, I think we take too many drugs for the most BS stuff. I haven’t been to a doctor since my last check up 90 days after crushing my spine- 2 &1/2 years ago. Doesn’t mean I don’t have health issues, just means I think people, in general, are looking for the easy way out. And that is definitely a flag for someone who will not have your back, be loyal or stick it out when times get tough. Thanks for the feedback though.

  3. Kevin on December 19, 2016

    A woman told me she was a squirter–that she always expelled vast amounts of female ejaculate every time. I banged her and it wasn’t bad, but no squirt. She said my eight inches weren’t enough–that she needed about ten for her to squirt. I said, You always squirt is what you said, with all your partners. Are you saying you keep running into men who all wield ten inches? She said, Are you calling me a liar? I said, Yes, I guess I am. And she attacked me! So I threw her out. She called the cops. I was put in jail for the night!

  4. Joe on April 28, 2017

    Woman: “If she’s rude to service industry… i love to hate-fuck them then ignore them”???? Ok, and that’s not a red flag for a man? ”

    No, that’s actually pretty fucking godly and I’m surprised you think there’s something wrong with him. Any person who’s rude to people in the service industry is a piece of shit at heart and deserves to be treated like so.

  5. JASON on September 27, 2017

    ALPHAX, reading this I laughed so hard because I could relate to almost everything you listed. We should seriously hang out, The stories would be insane. I’ve got one right now that hit almost every double flag and a few triple flags. One you need to add “Day 1, asks your blood type.” made a comment about my health. I’m pretty sure I could wake up in a bathtub of ice with a note to call a DR. immediately because my kidneys have been removed. LMAO!!

    • AlphaX Author on October 6, 2017

      LOL Thanks…. I really appreciate that. I try to combine truth with humor but I think my truth fire blast snowflakes. Anyway, I appreciate it. Come thru Dallas we will have drinks and torment my circle.

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