In a woman’s eyes you are always a “jerk” if you don’t do what she wants the way she wants. If you don’t do what she wants and you hurt her feelings you are the bad jerk and asshole. If you don’t do what she wants in a charming manner without ever getting upset you are the good kind of jerk and asshole.
If you met me in public you would not think I was a jerk – until you heard me flirt with a girl. If you understand what I teach it would make you smile. If you don’t then you may think I am a jerk.